New Mom Advice #4 - Feelings of Growing Apart from Your Spouse

When you are tired and busy with a new baby, it's easy to take your spouse for granted. This might be the first time in your relationship that you haven't had your spouse on the forefront of your mind. Many new moms feel more distant toward their spouse than they ever have - too tired and grungy-feeling for intimacy, too insecure about their new bodies...

Regular Date Nights - Date nights are especially important when you have a young baby. Try to enlist grandparents to babysit, if possible, and use this time to reconnect with your spouse.

Special Time With Spouse - New babies sleep a lot. Be sure to take advantage of this time to have some special time with your spouse. Throw a picnic blanket on the ground in front of the fireplace and have a romantic glass of apple cider. It doesn't have to be elaborate - in fact, the simpler the better as the baby might wake up at any time. Just stare into each other's eyes or have short conversation about anything other than the baby to help keep your relationship fresh.

Focus on being a good wife - When you are tired and anxious about a new baby, it is easy to focus on yourself and your needs. Try to remember that your husband is also going through a transition and try to give him what he needs as well. Moving the focus from yourself to your husband will actually help you to feel better as well.