Overview: There are some boys with TOO MUCH energy. Left to their own devices, will we happy with the choices they make? Be proactive! Here are some WIN-WIN options.
Ever feel like your son has too much energy? All healthy kids have lots of energy to burn but boys are in a category all their own. Boys will find ways to get their energy out if we let them.
But sometimes we won’t be very happy with the choices they make to let off some steam. They quite often choose to do things such as tease their siblings, wrestle when they should be studying, jokes in the middle of you teaching a lesson, arguing, etc.
If you want your boys to choose healthier and less annoying options, it’s best to help them expend energy BEFORE they begin using it in ways that make us a little bit crazy.
Here are 9 Ways to Help Boys With Too Much Energy:
Get Them Outside
It’s important to give our kids lots of opportunities to run around outside. Consider teaching some of their lessons outside. Add in periodic outdoor learning activities which allow them to move around. Try to provide lots of fun stuff to do in your hard.
- Younger kids love things such as sandboxes, riding toys, sidewalk chalk, bubbles, swing sets, etc.
- Slightly older kids enjoy riding their bikes, climbing trees, practicing their sports skills, Airsoft gun wars, jumping on the trampoline, etc.
- Older boys can be trickier. They begin to have individualized interests so you will need to study your own child to find out what types of activities they enjoy doing outside. My boys enjoy going outside to shoot hoops, swimming in the pool, Airsoft gun wars, target shooting with their bb guns and their bows, and jogging.
Consider a Pet
Pets are great for kids. They help them to learn responsibility, they build their immune system, and they give you an excuse to get your kids outside. Have your kids take the dog for a walk. Let them play fetch together in the backyard. Make your kids responsible for taking the pet outside for bathroom breaks.
Take Advantage of Non-School Hours
Encourage your kids to romp around and be active when they aren’t studying. The more you allow them to be active the better they’ll be able to sit still and pay attention when the occasion calls for it.
There are lots of ways to help your kids to be more active during non-school hours. The easiest way is to encourage them to play outside in the backyard. If your yard doesn’t have much room, or you don’t have the money to put lots of fun activities in it, then take your kids to the park. Go for a walk in the woods. Let them play on school playgrounds (when school isn’t in session.)
Made to Work
Boys like to do hard things! A wonderful way to help boys blow off steam is to give them hard, physical labor. I’m not talking about regular chores. I’m talking about big projects that will cause them to sweat. Usually, if boys see the purpose behind what they’re doing, they are more than eager to participate.
When we bought an above ground pool for our boys, we needed to dig a large, flat area on which we could put the pool. Our boys were eager to help us with that job and it took a ton of energy on their part.
When we put up a basketball hoop on our garage, we had a gravel driveway so we had a cement pad poured next to our garage. Our boys helped to prepare the ground before we had the cement poured and to plant grass around it afterward. And all of their manual labor will not only help our family but it will also help them to expend their extra energy.
Allow them to Make Messes
Most boys don’t want to sit in a rocking chair and knit all day long. The majority of them want to ride their bike over homemade jumps, dig in the dirt, climb trees, build forts in the woods, hunt for frogs, etc. Allow your boys to make messes and to push the limits a little bit.
I know some parents are concerned about their kids jumping on trampolines but that was a WONDERFUL way for my boys to get their extra energy out. We put up a safety net and gave them a few rules and they were able to jump to their heart’s content. Great exercise!
Make their environment somewhat safe but boys also thrive in quasi-dangerous situations. Don’t baby them too much! We want them to grow up to be men who are able to be brave protectors.
Find Ways to Say “Yes”
Over the years, your boys are going to come up with all sorts of kooky ideas that they want to try. As long as they aren’t going to hurt themselves or someone else, let them give it a try. Allow them to experiment, to exercise their imaginations as well as their bodies. Don’t worry about your floors or your grass more than you worry about your kids! Houses and yards were meant to be lived in.
The weather isn’t always conducive to going outside. Try to find ways to let your kids get their energy out inside as well. Consider letting them do an exercise DVD with you. If you have an unfinished basement, let them dribble their basketballs down there – or set up some exercise equipment for them. If you have hardwood floors, you might want to let younger kids ride their riding toys around in your living room. Kids were made to move!
Sometimes sports can take up an unhealthy place in our lives and become an idol. But, if they are kept in check, playing sports can be a great way for our kids to use up their extra energy. My boys have been playing basketball for the past couple of years and it has been wonderful for them!
Give them a Break
Some of us Type A moms get it into their head what we’d like to accomplish for school each day and we put our heads down and want to push through. Just get ‘er done! That technique can be detrimental to our kids, though. They need some downtime between lessons especially when they are younger. Try to vary the more strenuous lessons with some of the lighter ones. Allow them to move around between their more sedentary studies.
When my boys were younger, I also tried to incorporate lots of movement into their lessons as well. Involve as many senses in your child’s learning as you possibly can and you will find that they not only enjoy them more but they also retain them much better.
Boys naturally have a lot of energy and that’s a good thing. When we give our boys positive ways to get the wiggles out, no matter what their age, we will find that they are much more capable of paying attention, they are healthier, and they will better apply themselves when we’d like them to.
Question: Have you been successful at using any of the above techniques with your boys? Or is their extra energy driving you crazy? Please leave a comment below.