10 Tips for Teaching Teenage Boys

10 Tips for Teaching Teenage Boys

Overview: Teaching teenage boys? It IS possible to create a good experience for you AND for them! Check out these MUST KNOW tips to make teaching enjoyable again!

My oldest son is only a few months away from turning 18. He has been driving himself and his brother to basketball practice and to youth group events for the last few years. And he is a responsible driver! So much so that we’ve also been trusting him to give his friends rides to gatherings as well.

It has been mind-blowing to see the amount of maturity this son has gained from this one act alone. I’m still trying to figure out how my son got so old so fast!

If you have teenage boys, you have probably noticed that your tried-and-true homeschooling methods aren’t working as well for them anymore. Once our boys reach the tween or teen ages, you will occasionally find that the son who once used to look up at you with adoring eyes will now look at you with less enthusiasm and will suddenly question you way more often than you would like.

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As our sons approach adulthood, there is often a battle of the wills between them and their parents. This is especially hard on moms who are homeschooling because we tend to receive the brunt of it.

We’re home with them all day long and we’re attempting to teach our boys. Our sons, however, are beginning to see our lessons as lectures and our suggestions as bossing them around.

What’s Going On?

Our boys will become men and they are desperate to be seen and treated like men during these critical years. So, what is a mom to do? How can we best homeschool our teenage boys?

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Here are Ten Tips for Teaching Teenage Boys:

1 – Ask Him What He Needs

Talk to your son. Does he feel there are any changes that need to be made in your homeschool? Does he have any suggestions? Listening to your son’s thoughts and opinions is key.

By the way, if your son has a hard time expressing himself verbally, take him for a ride in the car. Boys have an easier time opening up when they are sitting side-by-side rather than when we are looking them in the eye.

2 – Hand Over the Reigns

Let him have some control over his life. As your son gets older and shows himself to be responsible, you need to give him more and more control. You may find, as we have, that giving your son a list of weekly tasks and letting him manage his own time will do wonders for his attitude.

3 – Stop Waking Him Up

Teenagers need a lot more sleep than you might think. Allow your son to sleep in later than you have been, and you are bound to see positive changes in his demeanor.

4 – Get Dad Involved

As your son enters his teen years, it will be harder and harder for him to take orders from mom. When you start to feel resistance from your son, and it isn’t wise for you to back down, then get your husband involved.

Sometimes dads can explain things in ways that are more palatable for your son to hear. Sometimes they need to lay down the law.

5 – Real Life Learning

It’s important to give our teenage sons experience in the real world. Encourage them to hold a part-time job. Find them a mentor from your church. Help them to find internships or volunteer opportunities.

Boys learn so much more from these types of experiences than they ever will through book learning!

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6 – Physical Activity is Key

Give your son plenty of opportunities to burn off his extra energy. Team sports are one way to do this. Throwing the football around the backyard with dad is another way.

Challenge your son to set fitness goals. Many boys thrive when being pushed in this area by a coach or other adult they look up to.

7 – Let Him Explore His Interests and Talents

Rather than teaching your son all the same subjects that he would get in school, tailor his education more to his unique needs. Let him study electives that he will enjoy and that will challenge him.

Allow him to learn in ways that work best for him. Give him lots of opportunities to try new things.

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8 – Show Him Respect

If we want our sons to show us respect, then we need to model that behavior for them. Boys crave respect as much as their fathers do. This is the top way to develop a good relationship with your teenage son!

9 – Treat Him Like a Man

Whenever possible, start treating your son the way you would treat your husband. Give him hard things to do and ask him to help you.

Don’t assume that he needs your help or wants your advice. And tell him what you want him to do. Don’t make him try to guess!

10 – Relax

Women can have a tendency to get worked up over things. We can sometimes see situations as more urgent or important than they really are. And we worry too much.

Our sons greatly appreciate it when we remain calm and let the little things go.

Allow this difficult time to drive you to your knees in prayer and God will give you the strength and wisdom you need to homeschool and parent your son.  

The teenage years are a HUGE time of transition for our kids AND for us parents. Do you remember what you were like as a teenager? Do you recall the things your parents used to do that frustrated you?

Try to have some empathy for your teens and keep in mind all the hormones that they are still learning to deal with. As your child gets older and sees the effort that you are making in the relationship, he will eventually come around.

Give him the time and grace that he needs to mature.

Question: Do you have any other advice you would give for either parenting or homeschooling teenage boys? Have you successfully homeschooled a teenage son or are you still in the trenches? Please leave a comment below.

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16 thoughts on “10 Tips for Teaching Teenage Boys”

  1. Excellent points. Although my boys never looked on me with disdain, there is a transitional period for moms when boys go from needing you to wanting you to get out of the way, and it can take you by surprise. It’s not an insult – it’s evidence that you are doing a good job raising men who can be self-sufficient.

    1. Good point, Susan. As difficult as the transition may be, we should look at it as a positive thing. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us!

  2. These are great tips. I try to explain how I feel many times to my boys, hoping that they’ll understand where I’m coming from. My parents never did that — they were the parents, and we were the kids, so they didn’t treat us with the same respect that they demanded from us.

    1. Michelle Caskey

      Yeah, I think that’s how lots of parents did it when we were growing up. But how are our kids supposed to know HOW to show respect when they aren’t be modeled that behavior from us? Sounds like you’re on the right track. Boys definitely like to know the WHY of everything! Thanks for stopping by!

    1. Agreed. Dads should be involved from the start. Unfortunately, it’s easy for some dads to stay on the perimeter in homeschooling simply because most of them aren’t home all day long. Just wanted to be sure I included that point for those families. Dads are SO IMPORTANT in the lives of their children! Thanks for stopping by!

  3. Great article. My son is ten, and I see these things happening already. And I REALLY needed to hear #10 (and the paragraph after it!!)

    1. So glad I could help! I think we could all use frequent reminders to pray for our kids… and to stop getting so worked up over stuff. Take care and I hope you and your son’s relationship grows sweeter with the passing months. 🙂

  4. I put my 15 year old in charge of his own timetable a few weeks ago. I also invite him to join myself and his younger brother for practical subjects. If he is stuck he comes to me for help, but has always been a very independent child and this approach seems to work for us.

  5. These are so good. I’m very thankful that when my son was still small, I heard a homeschool speaker talk about this. My son has been totally different than my three girls in homeschooling. And, thanks to having heard some of these wise words before, I’ve been able to adjust what I do. Because of that, we have a good relationship. I won’t say that homeschooling him is easy, but understanding what you’ve written here makes it easier!

  6. As a widow with my oldest son approaching 13 and my next son not far behind, I am very thankful for these words of wisdom! I am considering printing them off to post in my prayer corner to keep in front of me and not forget. There have been many moments in homeschooling recently where the battle of wills/questioning me gets overwhelming. Like you say above, it is the age. Your 10 points offer great perspective on ‘why’ this is happening. Thank you! ☺

    1. I’m so glad I could help, Rachel. Hopefully, your sons will emerge from the tween/early teen years very soon and things will be more pleasant for all of you soon. Around here, my boys started to gain control of their hormones around age 14 1/2 or 15 so you’re almost there. And since that time, they have become a joy to be around – most of the time, anyway. They’re still human. 😉 LOL

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